The miracle of life can be quite confusing for new mothers. I am pregnant with my second baby and I have to say this one is nothing like my first pregnancy. Maybe because I don’t have the same complications that I had with my first child or maybe because I have learned more. I feel like I have now all the necessary experience to know how to deal with a baby. I have just one month left until my baby arrives and it’s time to pack our bags. But, what to pack? What is really necessary? These were the main questions I had in my mind with my first baby that I will attempt to answer for you right here, plus you can download and print a cute Hospital Bag Checklist I created specially for you to make your life easier.
I used to suffer every night to fall asleep. I had to follow a ritual in order to do so, but even with that I’d take 2 hours to fall asleep. Can you believe that? Some things, however, have helped me a lot. First thing is to take a hot cup of CHAMOMILE TEA every night before bed. This not only helps you with insomnia but also, cleans your skin. Seriously you can see the difference in your skin after a couple of months drinking it daily at bedtime. Here on this post I will share with you some tips to sleep better that use every night and of course I will talk a little bit more about the properties and benefits of Chamomile Tea.
Before even thinking of transitioning Marie to sleep in her bedroom I started giving her a little bit of Chamomile tea every night with the authorization of her doctor. I remember the first time I did it and how my husband reacted to this in the next day. He asked me what did I do to make her to sleep better with longer intervals between nursing. “Whatever you did keep doing it”- he said. Later I explained that what I did was no miracle but, a simple tea that helps anybody to relax and fall asleep faster, better and longer. You may think that I am a little obsessed with Chamomile tea as I have two other posts that mention this amazing herbal remedy, in fact this tea is the starting point that helped me to create a sleeping schedule for my baby.
We all know that are different ways to become a parent. But, we tend to believe that we have it all figured out, that we can plan every detail and the pregnancy will be an enjoyable part of our lives, full of those sweet moments of happiness and excitement. Some may think, “when I get pregnant it will be like this” or “I will do this”. We imagine the first kick, the first time our belly begins to show, the first second after birth we’ll have our crying babies in our arms, ignoring all the natural suffering of pregnancy.
Two years ago I gave birth to a little girl, Marie. As a new mother I knew nothing about kids. I had to follow my instincts in order to figure out what to do and how to take care of a newborn. Just three months after an emergency C-section I had another cesarean-like surgery to remove 2 tumors and a Dermoid cyst (two Fibroid Tumors from my Uterus and a Dermoid cyst from my right ovary). My husband works the night shift and I couldn’t count very much on his help as I would have liked. However, I need to say that he did his best to help me with our new baby. I was miserable recovering from those recent surgeries, with a baby waking up every two hours to eat, suffering of a lack of sleep and still feeling the pressure to produce enough milk when my body was about to collapse.
I came from very abusive parents. I grew up feeling as If I were the ugly duckling but, without the happy end of becoming a beautiful swan. I struggled and still do to feel confident, to look at the mirror and not have that message that was “formatted” early in my mind similar to how computers or networking systems. I am reminded by the thoughts that say: “ you’re ridiculous”, “ you’re incapable to do anything right”, or the classic one I heard my whole life from my mother that gave birth to three girls : “xx (my youngest sister) is the most beautiful daughter I have, and then xxx (my older sister) but, you Lana, you’re not ugly”.
We started our 4th of July celebrations early over the weekend by spending some time at the lake. Tony had four days off from work and the first two days we were too tired to go out and party. I took advantage of that and made some delicious Brazilian snacks and I am considering myself now a master chef on Empadas and Esfihas.
Monday was an amazing day, we were too late to go to the lake and decided to take Marie to the carnival where I was able to fulfill a childhood dream along with my daughter. Hard to believe I had never ridden on a carousel before but, it’s true and it was everything I thought it would be. Of course, it was a little hard to hold Marie up on the horse but, we did good.